He Never Gave Me Christ (David)

I pray that as you continue to read what God has shared with me you are given new wisdom and understanding. This lesson was a conversation between me and a friend which allowed God to come in and open my eyes to a deeper meaning on what it means when we make reference to Ephesians 5


25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.[b] 27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29 No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 30 And we are members of his body.(NLT)


As I continue from my previous conversation, something else was brought to my attention about the courtship this young man and I briefly shared. There were so many unanswered questions and too many empty details which caused red flags to go up in my spirit. So in my studying of this scripture and speaking with my best friend I realize three things. The guy I courted never gave me Christ in his three distinct examples from his bloodline. All three examples require ACTION which is a VERB! (That is the English teacher in me).


Christ as David - To Praise

(Jehovah-Tsid-Kenu) - This name of the Lord is one of the most powerful and comforting ones he has given us and an understanding will create a heart bursting with gratitude.


2. He Never Gave Me Christ (David)


Christ came in the form of David to give us yet another snapshot of what to expect later on in time. It was through his resilience and tenacity as a servant to God, which made an iconic representation to the genealogical background of Jesus, in which we further get a clear understanding of the relationship between man and God.

David is by far one of my favorite men of the Bible. Despite his shortcomings and ill decisions regarding leadership and love, David was a man who had a heart after God. The beat of David's heart was so in sync with God it was hard to see the difference between man and spirit. His compassion for God was intriguing yet genuinely sincere at the same time, to the point God had no choice but to love David back even more. David wanted nothing else but to please God. His dedication to God was submission in its purest form. The actions of this man spoke louder than the word which scuttled from his heart. Regardless of who was watching him or even those who did not approved of his actions, David was a man with power and in that power he had a continuous praise in his heart despite his circumstances.


According to Webster's Dictionary, praise means - to glorify (a god or saint) especially by the attribution of perfections. How amazing is it to learn that a man during this time period made it a lifestyle to glorify God for his attributions of perfection. His perfect peace...His perfect will, etc.

According to Strong's praise can mean 1288 barak baw-rak' a primitive root; to kneel; by implication to bless God (as an act of adoration).


Although we know David was by no means perfect he never allowed his imperfections to take his mind away from his sole obligation as a son of God; which was to continuously praise God through the good and the bad. Even when he is in the middle of a horrifying situation, he praised God. Even when his enemies surrounded him and mocked him, he still praised God. Even when things did not go as he planned, he still praised God.

In Psalms 56 David prayed to God after he was seized in Gath by the Philistines. He says...

8 You keep track of all my sorrows.
You have collected all my tears in your bottle.
You have recorded each one in your book.


9 My enemies will retreat when I call to you for help.
This I know: God is on my side!


10 I praise God for what he has promised;
yes, I praise the LORD for what he has promised.


11 I trust in God, so why should I be afraid?
What can mere mortals do to me?


12 I will fulfill my vows to you, O God,
and will offer a sacrifice of thanks for your help.


13 For you have rescued me from death;
you have kept my feet from slipping.
So now I can walk in your presence, O God,
in your life-giving light. (NLT)


This simply brings joy to my heart in knowing that the man God will allow me to be with is currently being transformed to represent this form of Christ and in his representation of Christ I too strive to live a life similar to that of David's. This thing is bigger than me! It is bigger than simply wanting him to treat me in a certain manner. The focus is how does he treat God?

When all hell breaks loose in his life does he simply throw a pity party? Does he isolate himself from me and his family? Will he complain about every bad decision and circumstance or will he simply fall to his knees and praise God in the midst of it all? Does he exemplify the Christ in which David did? Is he strong enough to be the head and endure all the attacks so that they will not reach his family? Does he have praise in his heart which reverts back to his relationship with God? Can he really call himself a son of God? And if not does he really think he deserves one of God's precious daughters, like me?

God is righteous in all he does. Even when he gives us a "No" to something we seek him for, it all has a purpose. God does not make mistakes by any means and we must forever understand this. The young man that courted me never displayed Christ as David did. Although his gifts and talents allowed him to be placed in a position of continuous praise, his lifestyle outside of the church rarely reflected these characteristics. Furthermore, he came out of a bad relationship prior to meeting me and he allowed the past to negatively alter his mindset on relationships. This also allowed him to build a wall of bitterness higher than the Empire State Building. Insecurities continued to exude in his speech and his attitude about various things even to the point where he became disrespectful towards me.

I had to ask myself during the course of us getting to know each other, was this type of person I could see myself with later on in life? The harsh reality was NO! The man whom stood before me was not what I asked God for nor did he show me Christ in his actions on a consistent basis. True enough he took me to dinner and even made romantic gestures; however, what I really needed from him as a man and potential mate he lacked in. I for one know you cannot change a man and I am not in the business of trying to do God's job. So I had to really pray and seek God on walking away for good before making a premature decision based on what I saw in front of me.

My Pastor taught on relationships a couple of years ago and he gave us a formula to operate in which included a strategic order in which companionship should be built: Spiritual, Psychological, Emotional, and Physical. When meeting someone new I first had to see if there was a spiritual connection there. Needless to say with this young man there "appeared" to be, but I later found out this was not authentic. Then I needed to see if there was any psychological connection between the two of us...and well the answer again was no. Apparently the age difference and educational background seemed to be a major problem for him. Then there were the emotional and physical connections which needed to be addressed. Although he was physically attractive he was an emotional wreck after his last relationship. This formula further let me know I was headed for an explosive relationship which would end in complete disaster.

As I continue to wait on my Boaz/David...I have to thank God for the life lessons and teachers he continues to send me on a daily basis. I pray as you seek to become the man/woman God has called you to be that you are listening closely to God's voice and being obedient despite what your circumstances may be.

Be blessed.